Relationship Check-In Template (Printable PDF & GoodNotes)
A monthly check-in for couples. Rate six parts of your relationship from 1 to 5: connection, communication, fun, teamwork, affection and money. Then fill four boxes together: what went well, what I need, something I appreciate, and our plan.
- Printable US Letter8.5 × 11 in, white paper
- Printable A4210 × 297 mm, white paper
- iPad / GoodNotesAlso Notability and Noteshelf
- E-ink tabletreMarkable, Kindle Scribe, Boox
Free PDF, 1 page, undated. No sign-up needed.
Shown for iPad in the Blush Boho theme. Printable downloads use white paper (there's a dark mode preview below); the e-ink version is black and white.
One page, ready to fill in.
- 1–5 ratings for connection, communication, fun, teamwork, affection and money
- Boxes for what went well, what I need, something I appreciate and our plan
- A “Month” line at the top, so it works for any month and year
Who it's for
Couples who want to stay connected, newlyweds building habits, couples going through a busy season like a new baby or job, and partners in long-distance relationships.
Getting the most from a relationship check-in.
Rate separately, then compare
Each fill in the ratings on your own copy first. The differences are the most useful thing to talk about.
Start with what went well
Opening with the positives makes the harder conversations easier.
Use "I need", not "you never"
The what I need box is for requests, not complaints. "I need more time together on weekends" invites a plan.
Be specific with appreciation
"Thank you for handling the school forms" lands better than "thanks for everything".
Agree one or two plans
Finish with one or two small actions for next month, like a date night or a budget chat, and write them in our plan.
End on something fun
Finish each check-in with something enjoyable, like a walk, dessert or a favourite show, so it feels like time together, not a meeting.
Included in 1 planner
This template is a page in this planner. Open it to see everything else that comes with it.
Get it inside a full hyperlinked planner
The couples planner & journal includes this page alongside dated month and week pages for your year, with side tabs and links between every page. Pick your device and theme, preview it free, and pay only when it's right.
- Dated pages for the whole year
- Tap a tab or a date to jump there
- GoodNotes, Notability, Samsung Notes, e-ink and print sizes
Opens the couples planner & journal with the Couples section switched on.
Or read about the couples planner & journal first.
About this relationship check-in template
Need help importing it? See devices and apps or the FAQ.
What is a relationship check-in?
A regular, structured conversation where partners talk about how things are going, what they appreciate and what they need. Monthly is common.
How long does it take?
Thirty minutes to an hour. Pick a relaxed time without screens.
Do we each need a copy?
It helps. Print two, or import the PDF on both devices, and fill in the ratings separately.
Is it a replacement for counselling?
No. It's a tool for everyday connection. If you're struggling, a couples counsellor can help.
How often should couples check in?
Monthly suits most couples. Some prefer a short weekly version using just the four boxes.
What if we rate things very differently?
That's useful information, not a problem. Ask each other why, listen, and agree one small change.
